-Aliba-
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Woman AGAIN!
On friday there, my gf was really down n upset n shit. Shes just got her own house, bringing up a kid n shit. And basically, the council are fuckn her about. Anyhows.... shes down n upset, fones me at 1am girning n shit....... so i somehows manages to get a lift to hers (cos my car aint running just now :mad .
So, i comforted her n shit  as u do . Everything was fine over the weekend.
Go to uni on monday, then back home n relaxed for the night. Talked over the fone n shit.
Tuesday comes, and i go fishing, then go to her house, then head home. But i could sense she was twistit! 
Foned her tonight umpteent times trying to get her to come over but she wouldnt answer her fone, or her ringer was off etc...
Eventually gets a hold of her 10 minutes ago.
Eventually asked what the matter was yesterday (when she was twistit), and she then comes out with "We're over! You know the state i was in on friday night, and you still manage to find time to go fishing! Our realationship is over... dont phone me again!" then hung up!
fcuki me man, what am i suppose to do???
Shes the one with the car just now!
I thot everything was fine!
But, want to know the best of it...... if i hadnt went to hers yesterday... she wouldnt have known i was away fishing.... and everything would be fine!
My heeds fucked up. Dont want to lose her (3 years). But each fall out, kinda hurts me in2 thinking that i should maybe just let it all go..... although for the life of me i dont, and cant!
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corsa_godfather
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unlucky m8.
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-Aliba-
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but the thing is..... i'm almost positive that she didnt mean it. (talking from experience :lol... but it still fucks me up.
She can be so awkward like you wouldnt believe!
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whitter45
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just bare with it mate. all women are the same. my gf has said this a couple of times to me like '.. its over just don't bother ringing me again....' so i don't and she ends up ringing me back a day or 2 later.
Just don't do anything without thinking it over mate cos u will end up regretting it
hope that helps
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-Aliba-
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nah am not going to do anything to jeapordise "us", but the thing is.... shes basically in the house with her son 24/7 for this year... so she doesnt particularly get free time to think about me!
Whereas with me, i just cant get her out ma heed all the time!
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Craig W
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She's having a tough time at the mo, but it doesn't give her the right to take it out on you. 3 years is a long time, and i can gurantee you she won't throw it all away over fishing. Hopefully she'll realise she's in the wrong, time is a good healer mate. Give her time.
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-Aliba-
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Cheers folks for helping me out here.
But she's the kinda lassie that is never wrong.... honest to god..... its nearly split us up before, all because she wont admit to being in the wrong! I cant stress enough how much i mean this!
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whitter45
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good advice Craig W. like u say 3 years is along time and u both have probably been through alot together so it will probably take something huge to split u up. Give her time and space cos thats what she is sayin she wants,. but u know what women are like they normally mean the opposite to what they are saying if u know what i maen
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Craig W
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quote:
Originally posted by -Aliba-
Cheers folks for helping me out here.
But she's the kinda lassie that is never wrong.... honest to god..... its nearly split us up before, all because she wont admit to being in the wrong! I cant stress enough how much i mean this!
lol my missus is the same, i used to bite back and try and argue my case and prove she was wrong, which led to more arguments. Now ive learned to let it go over my head, bite my lip and stop arguments before they begin. To be honest i think deep down they know they're wrong sometimes, they just like the last word. A womans pride is a funny thing.
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-Aliba-
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without a doubt, good advice bud, ta
Just dont want to give her time... cos i'm honestly not sure that it would help.... cos then she can say that i still wasnt there for her!
Think i could be paying her a visit 2moro then. Thats if she'll let me in!
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whitter45
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thats what i mean mate. they ask for space and sh*t but really they want u there and as soon as ur not they throw it back in ur face. best bet is to see her face to face if u can and talk it over. Good Luck fella
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-Aliba-
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cheers mate, most appreciated
Al c how things go again 2moro and i'll keep yous posted. ta
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Craig W
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I know how you feel, i'm the same. I want to sort problems/arguments out there and then, i hate waiting and giving time... but... it really is the best thing in some cases, although you may feel better in yourself for ringing her etc, she'll probably see it as you pestering her - because of the frame of mind she's already in.
It's a tough one, if you do give her time she may think you don't care, and that you're not thinking about her etc etc. Leave her a voice message or a txt message if she wont pick up the phone, just tell her that you love and care for her, you want to sort things out and just want for you both to be happy. If she replies with something sh*tty, let it go, don't bite back. She's probably looking for an argument, don't give her one. Just let her know you still care, and leave the ball in her court. She'll come back.
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-Aliba-
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cheers fella al give it a try ta
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ajscorsa
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in the words of munchie, just bum her lad!!!
lol. every women is the same. lifes goal is to make you feel like shit.
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mav
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Something deffo bothering her and maybe just taking it out on you...Try and let her cool down a bit.....Give her a few days space.
if no contact by then fone her or go and see her...If you have been together 3 years I'm sure there is a better reason than u went fishing...
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barry_kellett99
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My GF is at uni in edinburgh, and we have only been going out 2 months (1 month here at home) and we agreed to keep it going when she is away... Although I was over last weekend and I have never been in any number of relationships and never met anyone i really wanted... and Therefore I have no track record of emotions and stuff and I was struggling to come to terms with all my feelings.... long and short of it is I basically told her I think i am falling in love with her
To which she sort of freaked.
And i think Ive cocked it up big time as Although we have talked on the phone, she is distant and we did say we wanted to take it slow and still see each other but I think she doesnt want the hassle of me being attached to her when she is away at uni....
She went out last night and was supposed to text me when she got in but she didnt
Maybe I am over reacting but I duno how to deal with this shit
I dont understand the fact that everyone wants to be with someone, who ultimately will end up hurting the other person
WTF
HELP
Sorry for this!
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BigSte
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I split with my GF on sunday after 4 and a half years. hurts like mad, can't get her out my head. We have been 2gether since 3rd year at secondary school and have been through all sorts together.
She wants time to sort her feelings out but since sunday we have texted none stop and talked on msn, we left it last nite on a good note but havn't heard anythin from her today..
my heads fucked up at the minute, nothin seems 2 help tho.
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barry_kellett99
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My head is also fucked and i only have had 2 months, feel sorry for you mate with your 4 and half years... I dont know what to do.... I texted her this morning and no reply?? So do I just leave it to her to reply in her own time? And if yes, for how long?
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-Aliba-
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Kinda harsh positiojn to be in barry.
Cant imagine what ur feeling like.
All i can really advise is to try n talk to her. Its too complicateds talking through txts..... cos you never get the emotions etc clear enuf.
Seen her today...... seemed ok infront of my wee sis n mother with me...... but she whispered (twisititly might i add) that she meant what she said. Well why act all smiley as if all is ok??????
I'm going to drop in again at hers tonight and hopefully make a deal with her.
Dont particularly want to jump back in at the deep end as good as it is..... but want to kinda do things together as we were a few years back before it all got serious. Kinda want to start afresh... fall in love again type of thing...... but fuk knows whether she'll agree or even give it a FAIR try.
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barry_kellett99
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Mine texted me there at lunch time, she isnt well (flu) so im putting it down to that and just giving time...
We cant get really serious yet, just Ive booked to go and see her at Halloween and I hope all is cool with us as its not cheap!
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-Aliba-
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good good mate. Stick with her.
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barry_kellett99
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I hope I can
Thanks
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