Lynny
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Do you still have to pay £12.50 for relationship advice on this site, I need a bloke's perspective  asked several mates and all given me different answers!
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AlunJ
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well you can ask... whether you'll get a good answer though...
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BarnshaW
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PM jake he knows alot about women
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Lynny
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Kinda wanted sensible answers, would maybe be better off asking my cats
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AlunJ
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well this is CS
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Lynny
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Believe me it's a last resort
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AlunJ
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you may as well ask away then
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Chris F
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Im a ladies man
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JonnyJ
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quote:
Originally posted by Chris F
Im a lady man
We know!
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AlunJ
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quote:
Originally posted by JonnyJ
quote:
Originally posted by Chris F
Im a lady boy
We know!
EFA
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Lynny
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Right, blokes perspective. Used to work together about 4 years ago, got on well then, both changed jobs but stayed in touch over the years (just Facebook etc), then find yourselves working together again elsewhere out of the blue. You go to hers one night for a drink and a movie, only have a couple bottles of wine so both stay sober. Neither have hinted it's anything more than friends. You hold her hand when sat on the sofa, then, due to having been drinking and can't drive, she asks you if you want to spend the night. Get in to bed, you cuddle into her, you kiss her, she kisses you back. Neither make any other moves, but you spend the whole night cuddled into her and running your hands over her body. Next day you leave. Then just don't contact her at all. See her at work 2 days later, and talk as if you would any other time. 4 days on, still no contact.
Now as a bloke, would you have contacted by now, just not interested, be waiting for her to contact you? I feel 16 again he's not the type of bloke that would have come over expecting to get his end away etc.
I want to contact him and ask him if he fancies going for a drink, but don't want to come across desperate etc
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AlunJ
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Perhaps he's just a bit of a nervous bloke? I'd contact him.
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BarnshaW
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he sounds frigid
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JonnyJ
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Originally posted by AlunJ
Perhaps he's just a bit of a nervous bloke? I'd contact him.
Clearly this. Didnt even make a move to go further suggests he was waiting for you to make the first move, he's probably posting a similar thread on powsport.co.uk about why the girl who kissed and cuddled him is acting all normal with him now.
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Dom
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quote:
Originally posted by JonnyJ
quote:
Originally posted by AlunJ
Perhaps he's just a bit of a nervous bloke? I'd contact him.
Clearly this. Didnt even make a move to go further suggests he was waiting for you to make the first move, he's probably posting a similar thread on powsport.co.uk about why the girl who kissed and cuddled him is acting all normal with him now.
F.LOL
Lynny - He's probably shitting it and being a bit of a pansy. Give him a call and see what he says, the worse that can happen is him saying 'No'.
[Edited on 17-11-2011 by Dom]
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N3CRO
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He's either waiting for you to make a move or he's not really interested although if he wasn't interested, he'd probably avoid you or something and it doesn't sound like he's doing that.
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noshua
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Working together I'm assuming you both speak at work? If so and it was me I would be asking you what youre doing tonight or x night and if the reply is along the lines of nothing then I'd mention doing something, then again I am quite a romeo
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Brett
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quote:
Originally posted by JonnyJ
he's probably posting a similar thread on powsport.co.uk about why the girl who kissed and cuddled him is acting all normal with him now.
omg
Just ask him if he wants to do another night. Tell him to get the DVD and you'll take care of the wine and rubbers and see how he reacts
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Russ
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JJ
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Lynny
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quote:
Originally posted by Brett
quote:
Originally posted by JonnyJ
he's probably posting a similar thread on powsport.co.uk about why the girl who kissed and cuddled him is acting all normal with him now.
omg
Just ask him if he wants to do another night. Tell him to get the DVD and you'll take care of the wine and rubbers and see how he reacts
Yes, because when trying to start out in a relationship, coming across as an easy lay is just what everyone wants in a lass!
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Jambo
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Omfg Jonny
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Generation
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Sounds interested but nervous to me
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Ian
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Either shy or not interested, no clues there.
Probably some signs in the morning, because you did cross the shy line, and shyness doesn't make you impolite.
I would be leaning toward not interested without better evidence. Although I may be incorrect.
Either way regardless of his position you should make yours clear, quick text telling him to sort his life out and tell you what is going on ought to clarify things.
As a bloke I would fully expect contact within a day and I'm also quite lazy so if she text I wouldn't treat it as keen, I would be grateful that she saved me the job of administering the follow up.
Depends on your ages as well, I've substituted keen for clear these days, no sense messing just tell each other what is going on. And if you're not clear, it's not for any other reason than it's just nothing much.
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Graham88
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Just ask him direct and talk about it, we're not 12 anymore. If he's interested he should be fine with this, if not then you lose nothing and you will stop wondering. I find it a bit strange that he wouldn't be interested if he stayed the night.
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_Allan_
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What DVD did you watch?
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