kz
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So basically me and the missus have been together for 2 1/2 years next month... longest relationship for both of us. We've been finding the sex has really died down! Whenever something starts, we usually get distracted and end up just watching TV or something lol.
We've both got 'issues' in the relationship but we don't argue that much, we're very happy together... we don't live together or have kids etc.
Is it just something that happens!? I did read somewhere that you have more sex in the first few years of a relationship than you do for the entire rest of it.
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Jay
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Most of the time I just CBA
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taylorboosh
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Its called being normal, I still like sex and find the mrs attractive after 5 years...
I want it but she doesn't.. Most the time
Its normal.. I couldn't be arsed snagging all the time
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JaffaTB
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my gf always moans about being tired when i want it, sometimes we are both up for it, sometimes we are both tired and go to sleep, but recently i have been wanting it every night and i've been turned down a fair bit so i've had to resort to a good old wank
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nibnob21
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I've been with my girlfriend for over 5 years. I want it more than her but I'm still satisfied. Don't have sex as much as when we did in our first year together but that's just something that happens. If a couple are more than happy with their relationship in general it makes the relationship less reliant on a good sex life...although a good one does remain important in my opinion.
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LeeM
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Been with mine nearly a year, still at it like rabbits. Can't see why the sex drive should die off just because you've been together a while
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Blade_sri
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Use to have sex with g/f all the time!
8 years on, lucky to get it a few times a month!
Happy thou but have two kids si always tried.....
Probably sank more now then in my teens!
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fred7
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iam shocked your still getting it after 2 years lol, but no normal just gotta keep trying and be adventurous (spelling) different places and positions etc
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Blade_sri
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Blow jobs! None!
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JaffaTB
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my gf has got fed up of me trying to spice things up, i'm always after her arse haha, im banned now
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taylorboosh
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Its 100% just part of a relationships development, get past the stage where you want to shag loads and get to the stage where watching a film is just as goid
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nibnob21
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The stage where watching the film is good...and then having sex after the film, that's even better 
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taylorboosh
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That's 1 in 5 films for me lol
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Blade_sri
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quote: Originally posted by john-d
That's 1 in 5 films for me lol
Same here, trick is putting on a film that she fancies the lead bloke
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baza31
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That's why all my relationships never lasted two years. I used to get rid when they started saying no. Now am settled am in same boat as the rest of you. bad times .
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Gaz
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Completely normal I'm afraid Kz, however there are things you can do, remember the result of sex needs a few bits of ground work. Do your homework and think of what used to make you guys tick, what sparked fun and excitement.
Do you have 'date' nights?
Do you make meals special rather than mundane and boring? (heading to the same restaurant every time)
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Toby
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Spice shit up. That's all I'm going to say, have sex at work, in fields, in a shopping centre, dress her up, role play.
Just do some kinky shit. With my ex Mrs we were both out with our own mates and met up at the end of the night, pretended we didn't know each other and tried to pull her, ended up shagging her down an alleyway, she went back to ours with her mates and I stayed out with the lads. Was heaven, that was after 3 years. However lass im seeing now is a complete animal even after 8 months, wants it everyday and if your not a gent and let her finish first she gives me hell. Keeps me on my toes!
edit: Ok that sounds classy, it was infront of the river in York and under a bridge, kinda romantic I guess 
[Edited on 19-05-2012 by Toby]
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Ben J
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Been with my missus 13 years. Goes without saying we aren't at it like rabbits like in the first few years and we've 2 young kids now so are too tired most of the time but it's all still good.
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Cole
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you get complacent(sp) when youve been with someone for a long time.
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RichR
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First long term relationship, I was with her for almost 5 years, lost virginity to each other etc etc. it was good and fun/adventurous for the first 3 years and then we didn't sleep together at all for the last 2 years when I went off to uni-no slap, tickle or anything.
Last relationship was always good although the frequency dropped off towards the last 12 months out of 6 years.
Been with my current missus 18 months and ta not showing any sign of letting up; she's 3 years younger than me so might be an age thing
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Bart
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quote: Originally posted by john-d
Its called being normal, I still like sex and find the mrs attractive after 5 years...
I want it but she doesn't.. Most the time
Its normal.. I couldn't be arsed snagging all the time
This 
I find alot of masturbation is the key
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Jimbothebarbarian
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Been with mine 18 years.
WTF is sex?
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DaveyLC
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You need toys!! And porn!
Our sex life is still tip top
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DaveyLC
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quote: Originally posted by Toby
Spice shit up. That's all I'm going to say, have sex at work, in fields, in a shopping centre, dress her up, role play.
Just do some kinky shit. With my ex Mrs we were both out with our own mates and met up at the end of the night, pretended we didn't know each other and tried to pull her, ended up shagging her down an alleyway, she went back to ours with her mates and I stayed out with the lads. Was heaven, that was after 3 years. However lass im seeing now is a complete animal even after 8 months, wants it everyday and if your not a gent and let her finish first she gives me hell. Keeps me on my toes!
edit: Ok that sounds classy, it was infront of the river in York and under a bridge, kinda romantic I guess 
[Edited on 19-05-2012 by Toby]
^^^ this
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Sam
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quote: Originally posted by JaffaTB
my gf has got fed up of me trying to spice things up, i'm always after her arse haha, im banned now
FPMSL 
I would probably get divorced if I tried to shag my other half up the arse...
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